Here's the truth
most of us are terrible at trust...
Here’s the truth: Most of us are terrible at trust.
I know because I used to be the “master” of emotional risk management.
My strategy? Trust no one, stay in control, always have an exit strategy.
That was me thinking being smart.
Until I met my wife.
Getting too close, feeling too much – I did what any “rational” person would do: I tried to end the relationship…
But finally instead of walking away, I did something terrifying: I told her the truth about being scared, about my fear of getting hurt, about my instinct to run before I could be abandoned.
The world didn’t end.
Instead, something remarkable happened:
By showing vulnerability first, I created a space where she felt safe to be vulnerable too. One act of genuine openness created a ripple effect that transformed our entire relationship.
The real revelation?
Trust isn’t about finding people who will never hurt you…
It’s about accepting that hurt is possible and choosing to connect deeply… anyway.
I made a radical shift:
instead of maintaining dozens of surface-level relationships as a safety net, I focused on fewer but deeper connections.
The result?
A smaller but infinitely stronger support system. Counterintuitively, this made me more open to new relationships, not less.
The path to real emotional security isn’t through control – it’s through surrender…not to another person, but to the reality that meaningful connection requires risk.
Here’s my challenge to you:
1. Take one relationship where you’re playing it safe.
2. Find one truth you’ve been holding back.
3. Share it. Not as a strategy, but as a genuine opening.
You might just find that what you thought was protecting you was actually imprisoning you.
Let me know if there is thruth in this for you…
